The Sandwich Generation: Stuck between Life and Stress

The sandwich generation is the lesser-known generational category. It doesn’t refer to the birth year but instead, middle-aged people who support their parents as well as their own children. People within this generation are usually women in their mid to late 40’s who are also employed and caring for ageing parents as well as children […]

Booming Mental Health for Baby Boomers

You’ve probably heard people referring to others by their generation. There has been an increase in young people using humour and stereotypes to address different generations. October is Mental Health Month, here at Veretis we will be sharing an insight into the mental health landscape of generations spanning from Baby Boomers to Generation Z. Together […]

Finding Yourself within Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome (IS) is the continuous psychological belief that you are a failure or a fraud. People with IS constantly brush of their achievements, qualifications, intelligence or social skills and believe they don’t actually meet the standards other people expect of them or they have for themselves. It’s important to note that IS is not […]

The Fraudulent Five

Imposter Syndrome What Imposter Syndrome Can Look Like The concept of Imposter Syndrome is the idea of someone not being able to internalise their success. They believe their success or accomplishments are dependent upon external factors. Such as luck, fluke or even the stress they applied to their preparation. There are five patterns that have […]

Who is the Imposter?

Can you Identify the Imposter? Jessica is starting a new job today, she has recently graduated from university and is entering the work force. After five years of studying, Jessica is allowed to feel nervous about this new change, that’s normal right? A thought pushes its way to the front of her mind, ‘You shouldn’t […]

Women’s Equality Day Special

What is Women’s Equality Day? Women’s Equality Day is an American celebration of allowing women to vote. Just because it’s American doesn’t mean we can not take this time to reflect on what Australian women have achieved. Women’s Equality Day is a day of reflection. A day of appreciating the sacrifices of the women in […]

The Building Blocks of Identity Development

What is an identity? How do we know what parts of our identity are truly ours and not a projection of those around us? The different aspects of creating an identity can make it a very difficult thing to do. Especially in a time of change or stress which is when the assurance of who […]

Identity Crisis In a World of Technology

What is an Identity Crisis and How Can it Occur? An identity crisis is a developmental life event where a person questions themselves, their purpose and their place in the world around them. This is a time of deep analysis, reflection and exploration of various ways a person sees themselves. An identity crisis is not […]

Identifying Identity

What is Identity? Identity can be viewed as the unique puzzle pieces that when put together, make you, you. Identity includes your memories, experiences, values, beliefs, relationships, strengths, weaknesses and many more. Your identity is something you can’t control. However, you can help it develop over time as you learn, grow and experience new things. […]

Fire Up Your Awareness

Changing Your Habits of Gaslighting and Recovering From Gaslighting Do you stoke the flame? Gaslighting can be difficult to identify, it can be even harder to identify if you’re the gaslighter. The main concept of gaslighting is an assertion of power and control. Denying other people’s feelings and perspectives and further reiterating yours is the […]

Extinguishing The Flame

The Consequences of Gaslighting and How to Stand up for Yourself What is Gaslighting? Have you ever found yourself in a relationship or friendship with someone who is constantly denying their actions or words? You know they said they would do something or that they went somewhere, you know you heard it or saw it […]

Burnt by the Flame – Recognising the Signs of Gaslighting

Gaslighting Gaslighting has recently come to light on social media and is being increasingly spoken about. It’s not a new concept though, it’s been around for a long time and was actually named after the 1944 movie, ‘Gaslight’ where the husband manipulates his wife into thinking she is losing her sanity. Gaslighting is a form […]

We Didn’t Start The Fire??

What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse whereby an individual will manipulate the targeted person into believing they’re wrong, even when they’re right, causing them to doubt their perception of reality. The target may be convinced that their memories are wrong or that their feelings are overreactions, leading them to rely on […]

Living in an Unpredictable World

The world is an unpredictable place, it always has been. However, the recent experience of the COVID-19 pandemic has undoubtedly heightened this experience for us humans. So how do we stay positive? This might sound counter intuitive, but one strategy is to let yourself go with your thoughts (to a point), with the aim of […]

Life Can Change Like That…

The Need for Adaptability In an ever-changing world, where no day is the same, the ability to adapt to our surroundings is quickly becoming vital, although a difficult skill to possess. In the wake of growing global civil unrest, climate change, financial debt, and a global pandemic; feelings of angst, stress and more than a […]

Surviving Life

Ups & Downs of Living in a Pandemic COVID-19 has forced us to acquire new knowledge and skills to assist with generating a new way of thinking that accommodates our current, ever-changing times. We never know when or how our everyday life is going to be changed. What may have made sense last year, may […]

Dealing with Friendship Breakups

There are three important questions to ask yourself in any relationship who am I? where am I going? and, who is coming with me? Who am I? Is a big question, and one that is both not stagnant, and answered by a series of other questions such as “what do I like/dislike?” Where am I […]

Toxic Friendships

When it’s time to say goodbye… Toxic friendships can be tough to deal with, and even recognise at times. Whether it’s the inability to connect on a level you once did, or perhaps you’ve merely grown apart and they treat you differently as a result. Recognising when people are taking more from you than they’re […]

Being There for Your Friends

Have you ever been in a situation where a friend reaches out and asks for advice on a problem they’re dealing with? By listening and responding to your friend you are providing something called social support. Social support is the assistance that is accessible and provided by your social network to aid in difficult situations. […]

Importance of Social Health and Being Socially Healthy

Humans are inherently social beings. We interact with different people in different ways every day. Hence, connections and relationships are an essential component to our overall health, well-being and wellness. So what is social health? Social health is our ability to interact and build valuable and meaningful relationships with others. It involves how comfortable we […]

Memory – What is it & How to improve it?

What is Memory? Memory is widely understood to be defined as the process of learning, storing and retrieving information. There are two overarching types of memory which are then subdivided depending on the kind of stimuli (senses) and how it’s recalled. ‘Temporary’ memories or information that is stored for a short period of time is […]

Train Your Brain

Control your thoughts, clear your mind. “Mind control”– it’s the stuff from science fiction movies typically with sinister overtones.  In its purest form though, it’s simply about training your brain to serve you better. Previous blogs have covered ‘exercising your mind’ and ‘your thoughts aren’t necessarily facts’. In this post, we’ll focus on controlling your […]

Healthy Minds – Thoughts aren’t facts, don’t take them too seriously

Can you tell the difference between a fact and an opinion? Sometimes it can be difficult to see the difference. Often, we respond to our thoughts as if they reflect facts about the world, but they more often represent opinions or assumptions. Being able to tell the difference between facts and opinions is a valuable […]

The Importance of Exercising Your mind

The mind like any muscle, must be exercised. When we think about our health and well-being, we tend to focus on our physical health. Thus, we typically neglect the health of our mind, which is a critical aspect of our overall well-being. Whilst a healthy body keeps us active, fit and well. A healthy mind […]

What Happens if the Challenge is too Much? Facing Overwhelming Challenges 

Ever faced a challenge so big it fills you with terror? Where the sheer size of the what you have to deal with makes you feel completely overwhelmed?  What Happens?  For a start, you might feel bit of a “brain freeze”. The brain’s pre-frontal cortex (where logic, problem solving, analysis, prioritisation take place) goes off line, and our amygdala fires up the fight, flight, freeze response. The perception of […]

Viewing Challenges as an Opportunity, NOT a Problem

So often, in everyday life, we are faced with important decisions concerning new challenges. These could include applying for a new course at university or deciding on taking a new job. These kinds of challenges are a vital component of our ability to grow and develop as an individual. The more we test ourselves, including […]

The Unexpected but Powerful Role of Life Challenges

Challenges Stimulates Growth and Progress As young humans, we are faced with daily challenges. From learning to roll, to crawl, and then to walk, none of which are easy feats. All have obvious (i.e. new physical capabilities), and not so obvious consequences (i.e. wiring of neuron pathways) that ultimately stimulate growth and progress. Have you […]

Challenges are an Important Part of Life

A health crisis. A marriage breakdown. A death of a close friend. A workplace crisis. A global pandemic. Life is no doubt full of life challenges. Challenges that are unexpected and hard to overcome. Challenges are what makes life interesting and overcoming them makes life meaningful. It’s inevitable that you will experience adversity and challenges […]

How to Tap into Our Empathy? Empathy Fosters Compassion.

Empathy  What is Empathy?  Social researchers normally define empathy as the ability to sense other’s emotions and the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling. According to vulnerability researcher Brene Brown, the empathetic person will recognize the struggle of someone else without minimizing it, and be able to communicate a powerful sense […]

Compassion Belongs in the Workplace

So, how do you bring compassion to the workplace? Throughout this month, we have dived into what compassion is, the kind of power it holds, and how we can be kinder to ourselves. But an area we are yet to explore is an area where we spend the majority of our week. That being the […]

Compassion to Yourself is a Real Thing! How to be Kinder to Yourself?

Self-Compassion Self-compassion is often associated with shame and dismissed as something that leads to self-indulgence or self-pitying. It may be avoided as it forces us to think of times we were not compassionate to ourselves or when others weren’t compassionate to us. However, it is a real and important thing. It helps us internalise stressors […]

Self-compassion vs Self-esteem

Self-Compassion In our earlier blog post, we explored how to be compassionate towards others and ourselves. In this blog, we will take a closer look at self-compassion, how self-compassion is different to self-esteem, and how we can use self-compassion to move beyond self-criticism. This post is largely informed by the research of psychologist Kristen Neff, […]

Compassion – What does it REALLY mean?

In order to understand what it means to be compassionate; we must first understand the different approaches people adopt in relating to another’s distress. Problem Solver Imagine you have just separated from your partner. An individual who encourages you to take action, without properly acknowledging the gravity of the situation, might be considered a ‘problem […]

Ways to Tell an Extrovert and an Introvert Apart

At some stage of your life, you’ve likely used the terms extrovert and introvert to label another, even yourself. Imagine this, you’re at your work Xmas party. An hour into the social gathering, you have recognised that one person, Matthew, has been doing the most talking by a significant margin. You feel yourself become indignant, […]

Setting People Up for Success: How to Lead People to their Strengths

The hard part of leadership is leading others. It’s not a skill we learn at university. Unless you’re in a services-based industry which requires you to interact with others frequently, there’s limited “leadership skills” we learn while on the job. The easiest way to begin setting yourself (and others) up for success through your leadership […]

Using Differences in Styles to Strengthen your Team

Different Styles and Perspectives The benefit of working as a team is not simply that “many hands make light work”. But it brings different perspectives and approaches to the tasks your team completes and problems they solve. An abundance of difference helps perpetuate innovation, breeds efficiency and quality through allowing different people’s strengths to complete […]

How to Define Our Differences?

It is truly amazing how differently we all view the world. How our likes, dislikes, skills and preferences shape the way we think, feel and behave. We are all a kaleidoscope of different attributes, but it’s possible to arrange these differences into key categories. For some people, arranging our attributes, styles and personalities into groups, […]

Don’t Let Your Ego Get in The Way

As part of our focus on radical open mindedness it is necessary to look at our ego. This impacts the way we make decisions, form opinions, and hold discussions with others (in particular, colleagues). So before you tune out, thinking this article is not relevant to you because “I don’t have an ego, I am […]

Learning To Accept That You Might Be Wrong…

Not succumbing to an opportunity to address and improve As humans, we often find ourselves overthinking and reliving certain situations. This could be a situation that transpired at work, or something that occurred several years ago that still may cross our minds. During this time of reflection and contemplation, emotions may resurface that cause a […]

Learning from Different Perspectives

Making Positive Use Out of Disagreements If you’ve read our blog on this months topic, Radical open-mindedness (if you haven’t I suggest you check it out!) then you are aware of this skill made famous by Ray Dalio. It allows us to be open to alternative perspectives and willing to accept that you might be […]

What is Radical Open Mindedness?

Comparative to many of our monthly topics, radical open mindedness is relatively unknown, however, being able to harness it as a skill you bring to your personal and professional life provides tremendous benefit. Open mindedness, particularly radical open mindedness is about being open to alternative perspectives and willingness to accept that you might be wrong. […]

Get Going and Keep Going

This is a timely blog post with Xmas and New Year resolutions just around the corner! We all understand, hopefully, that life is a journey and if we are to be as successful as we are capable of becoming in any meaningful pursuit/s in our life then we need to have the resilience, perseverance and […]

Can Stress be GOOD for You?

When faced with some threat in our environment, our autonomic nervous system, one of the major neural pathways in the brain, becomes activated. Activation of this neural circuity triggers our ‘flight or fight’ response. This response is our natural response to danger. Think of a time when you were confronted with a terrifying situation. What […]

How to Make Stress Work For You

Hi, this is Oliver, your (stress) instructor….. Doooooooowwwwwwwwwn up, doooooowwwwwnnn up, come on more energy! In many areas of our lives we put ourselves under pressure and view this as a positive thing. We see the purpose of this exercise and what pursuing through that stress will ultimately reward us with. However, when this pressure […]

The Place for Mental Fitness

What is Mental Fitness? Have you ever thought about how mentally fit you are? You’ve probably heard of the buzz term “mental toughness”, but have you heard of “mental fitness?” Mental fitness is the ability to live life in a satisfying and sustainable way that enables you to cope with day-to-day challenges. It’s not just […]

Mental Health for Children

Healthy Families, Healthy Homes Mental health is an integral part of overall wellbeing for children. Like adults, the mental health of children is not static; it is a continuum where one can be in a state of optimal mental health, poor mental health or somewhere in between. At such pivotal and influential ages, there are […]

Women… It’s not selfish to look after yourself!

    selfish /ˈsɛlfɪʃ/ adjective (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.   It’s not always easy to put oneself first, particularly when you have other people depending on you. Women active in their different communities, mothers, daughters, wives, and girlfriends have […]

Self-Care is NOT Selfish

When asked, “What do you really do to take care of yourself?”; many of us struggle to answer this. Instead we are guilty of persisting through a day of work, completing errand after errand, attending to others over ourselves until it gets to the end of the day, leaving ourselves feeling exhausted, drained and depleted. […]

Men’s Mental Health – What Does it Really Mean?

Where does Men’s Mental Health currently stand? It has long been the understanding that men struggle to acknowledge when mental health issues are present and are less likely to reach out for support. Now, I don’t wish this blog to be another “men should reach out for support” or “mental health challenges are part of […]

Helping Someone Who Isn’t OK

Going beyond the conversation of asking if someone is OK, is a difficult step to take. It takes a bundle of courage to simply ask, “are you okay?” However, it takes a stack of bravery to go a step further and genuinely help someone who isn’t okay. Initially when asking if someone is okay, people […]

R U OK in 2020? 

As you may have heard many times, this year has proven to be one of the most significant years in our lives. We have gone from Bushfires, to Drought, to Floods and now the almighty Coronavirus. At the beginning of the year, we all focused on how we could achieve our new year resolutions and […]

Helper vs Rescuer

R U OK? R U OK day (Sept 10), is a terrific day encouraging us all to look out for each other and “check-in” on how we’re traveling regarding our mental health and wellbeing. Obviously 2020 has thrown up unique challenges which at some point have tested us all in very different ways. With a […]

How to Ask R U OK?

Something in your gut has told you that your friend, family member, colleague or acquaintance, may not be doing so well – it could be a change in something they are doing, saying, or something that you’re aware of is going on in their life. You could ignore your gut and brush it off, or […]